Ladies always very rightly go first so lets start with the would be Sugar babes out there.
I would like to offer a little advice on the pitfalls to avoid when setting your profile up
Faux pas, so to speak.
Building a profile can be likened to building a house, if the foundations are wrong the rest will all go wrong at some point.
So lets get you on a sure footing from the very offset.
In doing this you will save a great deal of time and also avoid the time wasters and undesirables that unfortunately float in the fringes.
These people used to be are rare but due to the nature of the way the sites out there are steering sugar dating they are becoming more the norm than the exception.
If you can steer clear of them at the start it will make your sugar dating experience truly captivating.
How it should be.
A bad experience early on could deter you from proceeding.
The vast majority of my experiences and the people I have had the pleasure of meeting through Sugar dating have been truly amazing.
I have through naivety also met some people I would rather have not.
The good experiences far out way the bad, but you need to be aware of how to keep yourself in the more sophisticated bracket of members and away from the salt Daddies that unfortunately abound on the sites running now.
The plus side is, once you know how to quarantine the wasters you will have plenty of fun and good times.
Quite unexpectedly I have made many friends from being a sugar daddy.
If a connection is genuine its easy to remain this way even once your dating together might have come to an end.
I Often phone to chat to the people I have met sugar dating for advice or just in general chit chat. We have a common understanding and drive for life.
I want you to have the same awesome times and relationships
I am often asked on the best way to present yourself when setting up your profile.
I once saw the headline caption to a profile written by a sugar babe who was obviously at the end of her patience.
“ Don’t be a Dick or ill tell your wife and steal your wallet”
Now this is not a very positive way to attract the Sugar Daddy you might be looking for.
Others have read like a bridal gift shop with pre requisite presents or payments even to say hello.
You also read some profiles where the opening line goes something like
“I’m candy come eat me “
Ok, if you have taken the time to view this blog you are most likely in the category of person that sees the shall we say flaws in the above attempts to meet a person with the integrity of being a good sugar daddy.
And that’s what you want.
A good Sugar Daddy.
One that ticks all the right boxes.
All the persons with sugar daddy profiles should be in a position to offer the assistance or lifestyle you desire.
You want to attract a person of integrity.
Integrity is a word seldom used nowadays so hopefully a thesaurus is not required.
Attracting the attention of the right person.
Well let’s as I like to do on my blogs cut to the chase.
Sex is easy to find for everyone.
Be it meeting someone in a bar to paying for an escort.
If a person wants sex they can find it.
If all a guy purely wants is sex an escort is actually a far cheaper way of finding it than Sugar dating.
In saying this there are guys on the sites that will just try to get sex while offering no commitment to helping you along the way.
I’ve done it, although the way that happened for me originateda more innocently.
A lot of men out there are only on the sites to use I am afraid to say.
These are who I want to help you to avoid.
In saying that Sugar dating is not a hook up platform it speed dates you to the person that can meet your wants and desires.
So do not try to promote yourself sexually.
You will attract all the wrong people.
Now I’ll say what most sugar dating sites stick there head in the sand with.
If you are sexually driven, then that’s fine.
I often say sugar dating is an adult platform and as adults you have the right to choose exactly what you want.
But in its purest form, Sex is what most men join for.
And to have a person that will spoil them is what most woman join for.
There. Its out in the open, Its what everyone knows and yet no one dare say.
Ok back to your profile.
A sexually promoted profile will get you plenty of attention, but mostly from guys that have joined and do not fit the genre of genuine sugar daddy’s.
if in the profile heading it looks like you are offering sex pretty easily such as candy’s heading I mentioned above, then you are most likely going to attract the lower portion of the Sugar daddies available.
Or guys that are on these sites that are not true sugar daddies in either a financial or ethical sense the so-called
Also read: The 12 best tips for becoming a Sugar Babe
No Sugar to be had here.
This is where the integrity comes in as these persons will look for profiles where they feel sex will be easy and there objective will be to just use the sugar babe they have met with no commitments offered or very little in the way of.
Profiles that are sexually encouraging can also attract people trying to find new escorts for their agencies especially if the profile is of a very young sugar Babe.
You obviously do not want this kind of attention.
It can cause people to give up on even trying to find the right Sugar Daddy.
I reiterate what I am writing is far from the norm. Sugar dating when people adhere to its principles and core essence is truly incredible for everyone.
Unfortunately such a successful platform of dating is bound to attract the bottom feeders.
These are just helpful tips so to avoid having your time wasted and not discourage you from meeting the right person that is also waiting to meet you.
Genuine Sugar daddies will be looking for an attractive profile picture and a person that appears genuine and sincere.
I can tell a profile written by Sugar babes that have had far too much of there time wasted.
It is fully understandable that their profile becomes cynical reading
“ Don’t waste my time “
“Don’t ask for picture’s before messaging me first”
Sure it is an attempt to wean out the vast amount of time wasters you will encounter but it is also going to deter any genuine Sugar Daddy.
My site I mention on my Blogs Adult Arrangements will eliminate the need for you to deal with anyone that does not meet your criteria but until my site is operational this advice is worth noting.
But please click on the link below so you can stay in touch with our launch date and receive notification of all my blogs or videos on our utube channel also called Adult Arrangements.
You can also email myself Sean or if you would rather talk to a sugar babe Sarah with any sugar dating related concerns
The contact details are listed at the end of this article
Why listen to me?
I have already stated on another blog that I have been that Sugar Daddy lacking the integrity sought.
I know what the sugar daddy you are wishing to avoid is looking for.
So if I am saying I was once that person without integrity ,then why listen to me?
Well because I am a person of integrity but the Sugar Babes that all contacted me
When I first entered the sugar bowl made it so easy for me to just go with the flow and take what was offered.
The type of Arrangement was never even discussed.
I think the Ladies I met just assumed.
And I in my egotistical bubble thought they just liked me so much.
Vain? More placation of my genuine wish for someone to want me for me at the time I guess.
What do you want ?
Ask yourself this question now.
Write it down and make sure you make it absolutely clear on your profile.
If its financial support, as most sugar babes are looking for, then do not be embarrassed to say.
We are all Adults and this is the basis of what a sugar daddy , sugar babe relationship is.
The scope of what a sugar a babe might want can be pretty diverse.
It can range from financial support to simply being happy to be taken to a lovely restaurant for dinner.
So unless its made crystal clear early on the sugar daddy and the sugar babe just exist in an uncomfortable limbo.
From the sugar Daddy perspective when I met a sugar babe and nothing was discussed I thought they were just happy hanging out with me.
Another important point here.
If your profile just list you looking for
discretion, emotional connection, no strings attached, open relationship
But makes no reference to study allowance or friends with benefits.
You will again attract guys looking for hook ups without any financial commitment .
This lack of clarity stems from the largely self-imposed stigma that asking for financial assistance is prostitution.
Heaven help us if we go a step further and use the word money at any point.
Unequivocally sugar dating is not prostitution.
You are choosing a partner that has the ability to financially help you of course.
But it is a person of your choosing whom you are genuinely attracted to and sex is not a prerequisite.
Myself personally I took advantage of this reluctance of a sugar babe to be clear, never addressing the expectations at the very beginning and it resulted in us always feel a little un relaxed and after a while it became awkward to even broach the subject.
After a few meetings like this I realised I felt quite hollow after every encounter.
This was not what I had got into sugar dating for.
And I am sure it’s not what the sugar babes I met got into this dating for either.
The mutual respect and understanding that makes this form of dating work so well.
Dynamic, exciting and mutually fulfilling.
And I knew I was not fulfilling my obligations as a sugar daddy.
We know we do not want to attract unwanted attention .
Another thing I see often is sugar babes write
“ Im new to this “
or “show me how this is done “
Dialogue of this sort again is a green light to the users out there.
You are advertising naivety and also showing a lack of assertiveness.
I understand some write this as they are a little embarrassed and want to appear that they stumbled this way.
Do not ever be embarrassed.
After all this is exactly what Sugar dating is.
A mutually beneficial relationship.
That’s it in a nut shell.
So do not feel self conscious or awkward.
So the key to your profile is in its clarity.
If you are sugar dating as the vast majority of sugar babes are
For financial assistance then clearly state that.
Any area open to interpretation will be exploited by the salt daddies looking for exactly that gap in a person’s profile.
You should not be embarrassed about stating what you want.
Wanting more than you can find dating so called organically is the premise of this type of site.
Sugar dating however is not all about money or materialism.
To work you must have a mutual connection, a genuine attraction and desire to improve each others lives.
On a Sugar Daddy site You get to choose a person you are attracted to and would probably date anyway. It that just happens to have the added benefit of that person being able to support you, emotionally and financially.
Nature works that way.
We just took the idea from the animal world.
You deserve to date a person that wants to and has the means to spoil you and this is the best way for you to be able to find that person.
So we have agreed that clarity is a must.
If you give clarity you will already eliminate a large proportion of the time wasters.
The sites available at the moment all give the option of secret pictures that you can post that are available upon request.
My site Adult Arrangements will eliminate the need for this but as we are not up and running yet you will have to deal with the options on the sites currently available.
I personally would post 3 or 4 pictures of yourself and not take up the option of the hidden pictures that you can make available upon request.
My reasoning? Well
Again it comes back to attracting the wrong type of guy.
You will get the bottom feeders looking for a cheap thrill.
It just makes you deal with more time wasters.
The only exception to the use of hidden pictures I would envisage would be if you are currently still dating somebody or are concerned of family or friends knowing you are sugar a sugar babe, and prefer a level of anonymity.
If you are using the hidden picture option just to show a more erotic picture of your self I would give it a miss.
Another faux pas is to not post any picture.
You will get little or no response if you post nothing.
Post a picture of you from behind or any picture, it need not show your face
You can maintain your privacy this way and you will still get your profile viewed.
A lot of people filter their search to show only persons with pictures.
Type of picture
There’s nothing wrong with sexy.
Men are basic, I know I am one.
We are visually stimulated.
Just don’t cross the line from sexy to slutty.
A picture like dialogue can say a thousand words.
Sugar dating when correctly followed is a classy form of meeting people.
Another reason for me launching Adult Arrangements. I wanted to bring everyone in the sugar bowl back to the higher level expected and without any hint of unease by setting out to have a relationship based on adult values and mutually beneficial commitments.
That are clarified even before you contact a profile.
From the perspective of an emotionally mature man I found the use of the word baby quite creepy as well.
I was put off if a profile said hi daddy let me be your baby.
Sugar Baby and Sugar daddy is a concept.
For me not a role-playing act.
We use the term to categories our from of dating as the term fits.
But for me personally its just a collective terminology and beyond that I felt pretty awkward and a complete turn off if I was called Daddy.
Ok, I hope this has been of some help.
Both myself and Sarah are here to make sugar dating as pleasurable and hasel free as possible for you.
So if you have any questions we will be most happy to answer them for you.
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