Sugar dating can be incredibly rewarding and fun, but there are many traps for the unweary.
If you’re looking to become a sugar babe, or have been thinking about it for some time now, then there are a few things you’ll need to know before entering into this type of arrangement.
Here are 20 essential things you’ll need to know before becoming a sugar babe.
1. Ask yourself “why”.
Do ask yourself why you want to become a Sugar Babe. What are you aiming to get from this experience?
If you’re looking for a financial reward, how much? What time are you willing to set aside and what type of person you would like to meet?
Asking these questions is essential if you’re wanting to be a sugar babe.
2. Value yourself.
Don’t sell yourself cheap. Being cheap attracts bargain hunters which – in the sugar dating world – attracts time wasters and, at worst, exploiters.
A true sugar daddy should not be looking in the dollar shop.
3. Take time to make the right profile.
Do take time to put your profile together. There is a lot of competition for the best Sugar Daddies.
Learn more about setting up your profile here.
4. Don’t let yourself get played.
There are a lot of creeps out there who are out to take you for a ride. Be aware of players and scammers or the all too common “Salt Daddies”.
‘Salt daddies’ is the term to refer to someone who fakes being a sugar daddy simply to meet girls and get them into bed.
You need to be fully aware of these people and use your intellect in how to identify them.
5. Choose someone you are attracted to.
Do choose a sugar daddy you are genuinely attracted to. If you cannot develop a connection, then do not proceed with the arrangement.
You can only fake something for so long. Ethically, and in all ways, it will feel wrong.
6. Don’t go back on something you’ve asked for.
If you want money, say you want money. Don’t then retract it.
Sugar dating is fickle. Everybody understands that a reward for your time is the premise of this form of dating.
But Sugar Daddies like to think you would date them aside from the financial gain. Let this harmless egotistical illusion stay in place.
Ask for what you want, and then never go back to it.
7. Fully express yourself, always.
Do feel free to fully express yourself. A good Sugar Daddy-Sugar Baby relationship should be a reflection of traditional dating. Just without the dramas and committal.
In other words – it’s boyfriend-girlfriend, but without the associated drama such as jealousy.
8. Don’t be scared to end an arrangement if you don’t feel right.
Don’t be afraid to end an arrangement if you start to feel in any way uncomfortable.
The whole point of a sugar daddy-baby relationship is that it is mutually beneficial. You must both enjoy each other’s company equally.
9. Don’t be afraid to ask the hard questions.
Are you married? Do you have children? Are you looking to be monogamous in this relationship?
Don’t be scared to ask those questions. All have profound consequences on the type and quality of the relationship you choose.
10. Don’t fall in love!
We know – easier said than done. But remember, this is sugar dating. If you do develop strong feelings for your sugar daddy, express that to them only if you feel your feelings will be reciprocated.
You will easily be able to tell if it is mutual. It’s natural to develop emotional connections. It would be wrong not to. But don’t let those emotions lead to jealousy and demands.
It is actually far more likely your Sugar Daddy will be the one who gets lost in his emotions. Most Sugar Babes are the ones who make clear the parameters by stating NSA on their profile (Non- Serious Arrangement).
11. Establish clear boundaries.
Ask yourself what your boundaries are, and make those boundaries clear to your Sugar Daddy.
Sexually, what am I comfortable doing and not doing? Am I okay ethically with dating a married man? Emotionally, am I prepared?
Don’t ever go beyond your personal boundaries. You must be completely comfortable with the person you enter into an arrangement with. A Sugar Daddy might give you a financial reward but that should never be a premise for manipulation.
Always remember, that an allowance is not a license to exploit in any way.
Any person that does this, should, not be in the Sugar Dating community.
12. Ask questions when you first meet your Sugar Daddy.
Do ask questions at your initial meeting.
Most Sugar Babes seem to think that they must placate to what their Sugar Daddy wants. But nothing could be further from the truth.
We will say it again: sugar dating should be a mutually beneficial relationship.
13. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.
One of the reasons most people sugar date is because you don’t have to commit.
Meet and establish relationships with other Sugar Daddies and keep in touch with them. You can guarantee your Sugar Daddy is doing likewise in keeping contact with other sugar babes.
In this way, if a relationship should end you will not have serious financial repercussions.
14. Do plan financially.
You can very easily become dependent on the financial assistance a Sugar Daddy provides. Don’t.
Make sure you save and invest. Sure – enjoy at the start the retail freedom afforded, but then make sure you set aside a safety net. Any dating can be fickle. Sugar dating all the more so.
15. Get specific about what you want.
Do be specific about what you want at the beginning of the relationship.
If you enter into an agreement that didn’t meet your expectations, it will lead to resentment and a souring of the connection.
16. Filter your Responses.
Sugar dating isn’t about amassing followers. Genuine sugar daters value their time.
Do not engage in pointless chit chat. You are here to quickly filter and find genuine connections that will benefit you.
17. Don’t look at yourself as a “non-equal”.
Your sugar daddy might have financial security, but he has looked for you for a reason. A part of his life’s jigsaw is missing – and he wants you to fill that gap.
That is the beauty of sugar dating. You both can supply the missing pieces to each other’s lives.
Never let anybody try to tell you what you are doing is immoral. You as a woman are taking control of your life. You dictate whom you see when you see them and what you expect from them in return.
The only difference in sugar dating to traditional dating is that you have already bypassed the losers.
18. Don’t let financial reward cloud your judgment.
Sugar dating should never be a necessity. If it ever becomes that, then you open yourself to exploitation.
And you will then make decisions based on those necessities, rather than on your judgment and morality.
You could also put yourself at risk if driven by urgency of not fully checking out the person.
19. Do enjoy.
Sugar dating is fun, liberated, sexy and fits perfectly with our busy lifestyles.
Just use common sense, maintain your respect in your judgments and you will never regret a moment.
Just remember the code at all times – dating on your terms. Not someone else’s terms, your terms.
20. Join the right dating platform
There are many sugar dating platforms out there. But it’s important you find your sugar daddy on a simple and safe platform that doesn’t prevent you from communicating your expectations up front.
Our platform at Adult Arrangements was founded to help current and aspiring sugar babes to find their ideal sugar daddy and help them achieve everything they wanted out of life.
Adult Arrangements is unashamedly a sugar dating platform. As such we have made it simple for you to discuss allowances and how you wish to date.
Register and build your profile, outline your availability and the type of arrangement you’re looking for – and you’re all set to start your sugar dating adventure!