When thinking of sugar dating, as with any subject, it’s generally a good idea to start at the beginning. Most people would assume that would be finding a platform you like and writing a profile about yourself. But this is why the vast majority of people on dating sites encounter the same problems. Pre posting any sort of profile you need to be totally honest with yourself, define what you hope to achieve and what you are prepared to do to reach your desired goal. Sugar dating has many facets to it. You need to identify the ones suited to you and then attract the correct response from people that share your wishes and values. When i say facets to sugar dating I am talking about the different ways you might choose to want to receive or give a person an allowance. Your might prefer a more casual Pay Per Meet arrangement and the other person might be looking for the stability of a monthly allowance. This is just one area that you need to both be in full agreement on. So question one pre filling out a profile on a platform is.
Why do I want to become a sugar dater?
You might think it’s a no brainer question. Financial assistance, or in the guy’s case to meet a beautiful woman. But just spend some time on this, it’s important as I will explain. I would advise you write a list on why you want to become a Sugar dater, the reason I consider this question so important is that if you go in undecided without clear goals and objectives you begin the process that allows the time wasters and the so-called salt daddies room to manoeuvre. Ambiguity leads to uncertainty and its best in sugar dating to state very clearly what you want from the offset. You can obviously only communicate this information in a direct manner if you yourself are fully aware of the answer.
For Sugar babes, the questions you need to ask yourself are ‘Is it purely for a financial reward?’ If so, what financial reward am I looking for? What am I looking to get from this experience? What are my boundaries? These questions lead to more questions. For instance. What are my boundaries?
The question of your boundaries requires you to then answer other questions such as am I happy dating a married man? A person with children or a smoker?. You might also prefer people of solely caucasian appearance or be more attracted to a person of mixed race or asian appearance. Your boundaries also obviously incorporate sexual practices, all need to be considered before you write a profile. Any lack of clarity in what you want will result in you wasting a lot of time communicating with members that are incompatible with you. It also opens the flood gates to the time wasters that look for any thing that is unclear in your profile so that they can exploit that. For instance if you do not make it clear from your profile or initial contact with a member that you wish to receive an allowance of a certain value, that person could use the fact that no reward has been mentioned to start to date you without making the experience mutually beneficial. And the longer a situation like that goes on the harder you will find it to broach the subject.
Everyone has their own standards and moral compass. No one is ever to be judged by their choices. My only advice is that you never step outside your personnel line of ethics or morality. And you know what? you don’t have to. There are plenty of people that will match your requirements. But you will only find them by firstly making this ethical appraisal of yourself.
Most Sugar Babes join to ease some financial burden. This being the case you need to have assessed what level of financial assistance you are looking for.
A higher allowance might dictate seeing a person more frequently than you had expected. Or you might choose to have more than one arrangement. You see here how one aspect of sugar dating; the allowance can bring you back to your personnel ethics.
As a Sugar Daddy, you need to be comfortable with the age of the person you are dating and not forget that it is a mutually beneficial arrangement. You have obligations as a Sugar Daddy. The relationships sour or generally end on bad terms if these obligations are not met. Another pitfall of being a sugar daddy is blurring the line of personnel attachment. I’ve done just that in the past. I became jealous when the sugar babe I was dating asked me for advice on a guy she liked. Of course, Sugar daters can become serious dating couples but initially, That is not what a Sugar Babe wants.
If something naturally grows between you both then great. But don’t fall into the trap of thinking this is a regular boyfriend-girlfriend situation. Although to work there has to be a genuine connection and attraction from both sides. But the simple rule is that this is fundamentally a mutually beneficial relationship, that is generally of a non serious nature. Just as a sugar daddy is free to date other sugar babes, a sugar babe is free to date whoever she likes unless this was discussed at the very beginning and you both agreed to be monogamous. What we have broached here is often overlooked and I personally feel it is why there is more discontentment within sugar dating than need be. In closing to get the most rom your sugar dating experience I highly recommend you do a personnel ethical inventory first.