In the world of sugar dating, the adventure starts with your profile.
Your profile is the window into your personality. It is your opportunity to show your potential sugar daddy what you are looking for in an arrangement.
Now, on most sugar dating websites, sugar babies outnumber the amount of sugar daddies.
Which means you really need to make an effort to stand out.
But not just stand out to anybody.
There are thousands of time wasters out there. The now all too common and infamous so-called “Salt Daddies” (people posing as Sugar Daddies, but out to waste sugar babe’s time) are multiplying across cyberspace..
As such, you want to attract the right sugar daddies – ones that will unequivocally support you, and your aspirations as well respecting you and your independence.
How do you do that? We’ll outline the step by step method below.
1. Come up with a headline that keeps time wasters away
Some say a headline should be worded to attract as many prospects as possible.
That’s the wrong approach.
Your profile headline needs to be specifically designed to eliminate those people who will waste your time.
Rather, You want to keep yourself in the more sophisticated bracket of members. Otherwise, time waters will home hone in like sharks to a profile name that suggests an easy ride (pardon the pun).
Knowing how to prevent these time wasters interacting with you is essential to you getting the most from your dating. As If you don’t, you can waste vast amounts of time slowing getting absolutely nowhere.
Here’s what NOT to place as your headline:
- Game If You Are
- I’m Eager to Please
- Up for Anything
- Show Me the Money, I’ll Show You the Honey
- I’m Thick, Fun and Easy
- I’m Candy. Come and Eat Me.
- Don’t be a Dick (or I’ll tell your wife and steal your wallet)
And yes, these are real headlines that we’ve seen.
Instead, write headlines like these:
- Sexy, happy, friendly
- Fit and fun
- Intelligent and smart
- Looking for fun times
- Tell me a secret
You can still be flirty. Just don’t cross that line from flirty to tacky. A bait line like ‘tell me a secret’ is also an enticing headline.
If you want to meet a person with the character of being a good Sugar Daddy, then your presentation is everything.
You can’t allow frustrations to show on your profile, and you can’t appear “cheap”.
Sure, you will most probably get plenty of attention. But it will not be the attention you want. And that’s the attention from a genuine Sugar Daddy.
One that ticks all the right boxes.
You want to attract a person of integrity. A person that values and more importantly understands the dynamics that make a successful sugar dating partnership.
Here are some more freebie examples of other direct headers for you.
- NSA discreet fun
- Experienced sugar babe
- Mutually beneficial relationship sought
(NSA stands for Non-Serious Arrangement).
2. Craft your bio carefully
If your bio presents itself purely sexually, it will attract quantity over quality in the responses you receive.
You might also very well attract the attention of a great sugar daddy.
But in getting there, unfortunately, you will also have attracted every single salt daddy on the platform!
At no point do the main sugar daddy platforms request any proof of income or any documentation to substantiate if you are capable of fulfilling the aspirations of a sugar babe.
They might request supportive evidence for diamond members (maybe). But for general memberships, a creepy hermit living in a tent with $1 can join as a sugar daddy.
This is why it is so much importance on the profile you create, as you do not want to be wasting your time or have negative experiences.
3. Be careful about portraying sex too strongly in your profile
Sugar dating is one of the best ways for adults to meet and date. Dating involves intimacy. So as adults, let’s talk as adults.
Sex is what most men join sugar dating platforms for. It’s what Men date in general for.
To be spoilt and looked after. preferably with a cash allowance. is what most sugar babes join sugar dating for.
There, – it’s out in the open.
It’s what everyone knows and yet no one dare say it.
It is no means a prerequisite to sugar dating to have sex – but, like in most relationships, sex is part of the connection. If that connection is instant or builds over time is completely a private matter for anyone to decide themselves.
Your Profile profile can indicate your view on intimacy. A sexually promoted profile will get you plenty of attention, but mostly from guys that do not fit the criteria of being a genuine sugar daddy.
If your profile looks like you are offering sex regardless, then you are most likely going to attract the bottom-feeders – guys on these sites that are not true sugar daddies in a financial or even an ethical sense.
In other words, you’ll only attract the Salt Daddy.
4. Avoid naivety
To help you avoid being approached by guys that will not fulfil your expectations, you should also avoid profile headings like these:
I’m new to this.
Show me how this is done.
Show me around.
Headings of this nature are again a green light to the undesirables. It’s like ringing the dinner bell.
If you are advertising naivety, it portrays a lack of assertiveness.
We understand people write this as they are a little embarrassed and want to appear that they stumbled this way to sugar dating.
But do not ever be embarrassed.
After all, sugar dating is all about forming mutually beneficial relationships.
That’s it in a nutshell.
And everyone knows what that means. That’s why they are sugar dating.
So do not feel self-conscious or awkward.
5. Choose your pictures strategically
Definitely post pictures
Surprisingly, some sugar babes out there do not post any pictures at all.
You might want to stay incognito but you will have next to no members contact you.
Post a picture – it need not show your face.
You can maintain your privacy this way and you will still get your profile viewed.
A lot of people filter their search to show only members with pictures.
Go sexy over slutty
A picture can say a thousand words.
There’s nothing wrong with a sexy profile picture.
Men are basic. They are visually stimulated.
This means a good cleavage shot will attract attention both good and bad. But, if it’s tastefully done, you will find it mainly grabs the attention of the better class of sugar daddies.
Sugar dating, when correctly followed, is a classy form of meeting people. And you want to meet the classy members.
Ensure any picture you post does not divulge your personal information such as where you live, your car number plate, or your place of work. Before getting to know a person, you should always aim to never give out sensitive information.
Avoid ‘hidden’ or ‘secret’ pictures
Apart from your profile pictures, platforms available give you the option of choosing ‘secret’ or ‘hidden’ pictures that you can include in your profile and that are available upon request. These are generally a little risqué.
We recommend you post 3 or 4 profile pictures and not take up the option of the hidden pictures.
Well, again, it comes back to attracting the wrong type of guy. You will get the bottom feeders looking for a cheap thrill and more and more time wasters.
It shouldn’t take a hidden picture for you to meet the correct person.
And when you do meet the right person if your using Adult Arrangements you can share pictures completely discreetly at that point if you so wish.
The only exception to the use of hidden pictures I we would envisage would be if you are currently still dating somebody or are concerned of family, friends or work colleagues knowing you are a sugar babe and prefer a level of anonymity.
You can then use hidden pictures to store pictures for head shots to show people of your choosing. And not have your face on public view.
If you are using the hidden picture option just to show a more erotic picture of yourself (for example, the below)– then we would give it a miss.
6 Design your profile based on what you want
Many sugar dating sites will tell you to tailor your profile to what sugar daddies want.
To an extent, this is true – but that doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice your own wants and desires. Ask yourself what you want. Write it down and make sure you make it absolutely clear on your profile.
If you’re looking for financial assistance (i.e. cash), as most sugar babes are, then do not be embarrassed to say so.
If you just want to happy and be taken to a lovely restaurant for dinner, say that.
Unless it’s made crystal clear early on, the sugar daddy and the sugar babe just exist in an uncomfortable limbo.
This is why we created Adult Arrangements to negate all of the grey areas that spoil sugar dating.
Another important point.
If your profile just lists you looking for, say:
- emotional connection,
- no strings attached,
- open relationship,
…but makes no reference to a “study allowance” , “friends with benefits”,
or any form of reward, then you will again attract guys looking for hook-ups without any financial commitment.
This lack of clarity stems from a largely self-imposed stigma that asking for financial assistance is the same thing as prostitution.
But unequivocally – sugar dating is not prostitution. You are simply choosing a partner that has the ability to financially help you.
But it is a person of your choosing whom you are genuinely attracted to, and sex is not a prerequisite. Sugar dating is no different to any form of dating, apart from the fact you can seek out a person who can facilitate what you want in life.
That being said, as with any form of dating, you should never feel compelled to do anything that you are not comfortable in doing.
People’s morals and values often differ. But our golden rule is to always act within your own personnel ethical boundaries. Never compromise on this.
The key to your profile is in its clarity.
If you are sugar dating for money or financial assistance, say that.
Any area open to interpretation will be exploited by the salt daddies looking for exactly that gap in a person’s profile.
You should never be embarrassed about stating what you want.
Further, sugar dating is not all about money or materialist gain. For sugar dating to work, you must have a mutual connection, a genuine attraction and desire to improve each other’s lives. You deserve to date a person that wants and has the means to spoil you, and sugar dating is the best way for you to be able to find that person.
You read more in our article: tips to becoming a sugar babe.
About Sean (the founder of Adult Arrangements)
Hi there, I’m Sean – the founder of sugar dating platform Adult Arrangements.
I’ll be the first to admit it. I’ve been a Salt Daddy.
I know what the Sugar Daddy you want to avoid is looking for. And I know what type of profiles he will look for.
But as I started to fully understand Sugar Dating, and wanted a long-standing Sugar Dating relationship, I also know what a genuine Sugar Daddy is looking for.
Why I created Adult Arrangements
I got totally fed up with the way the sugar dating platforms were treating us members.
Sure, you join as a “sugar daddy” or a “sugar babe” – but the platforms pretend the concept of sugar dating is not what it is supposed to be.
Sugar dating sites wanted subscriptions but were terrified of the opinions of others. Affecting their revenue stream.
The denial they created for self-preservation has made people think sugar dating is murky.
And it has also opened the floodgates to time wasters.
When creating Adult Arrangements, I wanted to bring everyone in the sugar bowl back to the higher level expected and without any hint of unease.
I wanted members to be able to lay their cards out clearly at the start from their profiles so that there is clear understanding. This leads to a healthier and fun sugar dating experience.
Adult Arrangements was designed for you to be able to date on your terms.
My partner Sarah and I are here to make sugar dating as pleasurable and hassle-free as possible for you.
So – if you have any questions, we will be most happy to answer them for you.
All emails we receive are traded as strictly confidential and to be only viewed by the sender and the recipients.
Read our article about why you should choose Adult Arrangements as your next sugar dating platform.
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