Tips to Eliminate time wasters.
Ladies always very rightly go first so let’s start with the would-be Sugar babes out there. I would like to offer a little advice on the pitfalls to avoid when setting your profile up. Faux pas, so to speak. Building a profile can be likened to building a house if the foundations are wrong the rest will all go wrong at some point. So let’s get you on a sure footing from the very offset. In doing this you will save a great deal of time and also avoid the time wasters and undesirables that unfortunately float in the fringes of all dating sites. These people used to be are rare but due to the nature of the way the sites out, there are steering sugar dating they are becoming more the norm than the exception. If you can steer clear of them at the start it will make your sugar dating experience truly captivating. Which is how it should be. A bad experience early on could deter you from proceeding.
The vast majority of my experiences and the people I have had the pleasure of meeting through Sugar dating have been truly amazing. I have through naivety also met some people I would rather have not. My good experiences far out way the bad, but you need to be aware of how to keep yourself in the more sophisticated bracket of members and away from the salt Daddies that unfortunately abound on the sites running now. The plus side is, once you know how to quarantine the wasters you will be on the way to have plenty of fun and good times. Quite unexpectedly I have made many friends from being a sugar daddy. If a connection is genuine it is easy to remain this way, even once your dating together might have come to an end. I Still often phone and talk with the people I have met sugar dating for advice or just to have talked in general. You find that people that date this way seem to have a common understanding and drive for life. I want you to have the same awesome times and relationships.
I am often asked on the best way to present yourself when setting up your profile. I once saw the headline caption to a profile written by a sugar babe who was obviously at the end of her patience. It read as follows.“ Don’t be a Dick or I’ll tell your wife and steal your wallet” Now, this is not a very positive way to attract the Sugar Daddy you might be looking for. Others have read like a bridal gift shop with prerequisite presents or payments even to say hello. You also read some profiles where the opening line goes something like “I’m candy come eat me” Ok if you have taken the time to view this blog you are most likely in the category of person that sees the shall we say flaws in these attempts to meet a person with the character of being a good Sugar daddy. And that’s what you want. A good Sugar Daddy. One that ticks all the right boxes. Every person with sugar daddy profiles should be in a position to offer the assistance or lifestyle you desire. You want to attract a person of integrity. A person that values the dynamics that make a successful sugar dating partnership. All of Which leads me too.
Attracting the attention of the right person.
Well, let’s as I like to do on my blogs cut to the chase. Sex is easy to find for the majority of people. Be it meeting someone in a bar or paying for an escort. If a person wants sex, they can find it. Which entails If all a guy purely wants is sex an escort is actually a far cheaper way of achieving that than Sugar dating. In saying this there are guys on the sites that will just try to get sex while offering no commitment to helping you along the way. I’ve done it, although the way that happened for me originated more innocently. A lot of men out there are only on these sites to try to exploit I am afraid to say. These are who I want to help you to avoid. In saying that Sugar dating is not a hook-up platform it speeds dates you to the person that can meet your wants and desires. So do not try to promote yourself purely sexually. You will attract all the wrong people. So let’s carry on with the subject that all sugar dating sites stick their head in the sand with.
Sex is what most men join for. And a financial reward is what most Sugar Babe join for. There. It’s out in the open, it’s what everyone knows and yet no one dare say. Back to your profile, a sexually promoted profile will get you plenty of attention, but mostly from guys that have joined and do not fit the criteria of being a genuine sugar daddy. If in the profile heading it looks like you are offering sex pretty easily such as candy’s heading I mentioned above, then you are most likely going to attract the lower portion of the Sugar daddies available, or guys that are on these sites that are not true sugar daddies in either a financial or ethical sense the so-called
Salt Daddy! No Sugar to be had here.
This is where the integrity comes in to play as the less scrupulous persons will look for profiles where they feel sex will be easy and their objective will be to just use the sugar babe they have met with no commitments offered or very little in the way of. Profiles that are sexually encouraging can also attract people trying to find new escorts for their agencies especially if the profile is of a very young sugar Babe. You obviously do not want this kind of attention. It can cause people to give up on even trying to find the right Sugar Daddy. I reiterate what I am writing is far from the norm. Sugar dating when people adhere to its principles and core essence is truly incredible for everyone.
Unfortunately, such a successful platform of dating is bound to attract the bottom feeders. These are just helpful tips so to avoid having your time wasted and not discourage you from meeting the right person that is also waiting to meet you. Genuine Sugar daddies will be looking for an attractive profile picture and a person that appears genuine and sincere. I can tell a profile written by Sugar babes that have had far too much of their time wasted. It is fully understandable that their profile becomes cynical. “Don’t waste my time “ or “Don’t ask for pictures before messaging me first” are quite common profile captions. I understand that this is an attempt to wean out the vast amount of time wasters you will encounter but it is also going to deter any genuine Sugar Daddy.
Adult Arrangements goes a long way in helping you eliminate the need for you to deal with anyone that does not meet your criteria as what they are offering and what you wish to receive are clearly stated on your profile pages.
Why listen to me?
Well, I’ve been that Sugar Daddy lacking the integrity sought. I know what the sugar Daddy you are wishing to avoid is looking for. And I know what type of profiles he will look for. But as I started to fully understand sugar Dating and wanted a long-standing Sugar Dating relationship, I also know what a genuine Sugar Daddy is looking for. My early path of being somewhat of a Salt Daddy actually happened by chance as when I first entered the sugar bowl, lots of Sugar Babes made it so easy for me to just go with the flow and take what was offered, an arrangement was never even discussed. I think the Ladies I met just assumed that I as the sugar Daddy would eventually broach the subject. And me in my egotistical bubble thought that they just liked me so much that my company was sufficient. Vain? I think for me it was more placation of my genuine wish for someone to want me for me at the time. But I blurred that line that separates sugar daters from traditional dating. Validation of emotions such as these has no place in Sugar dating. They come with all the other damaging emotions such as jealousy. The absence of negative emotions such as these is what makes Sugar Dating such fun. You do not want to become too emotionally involved at the early stages of dating in any form. Let things progress at a natural pace.
What do you want?
Ask yourself this question now! Write it down and make sure you make it absolutely clear on your profile. If its financial support, as most sugar babes are looking for, then do not be embarrassed to say so. We are all adults and this is the basis of what a sugar daddy, sugar babe relationship is. Yet it is at this point that we all seem to go a little coy. The extent of what a sugar a babe might want can be pretty diverse. It can range from financial support to simply being happy to be taken to a lovely restaurant for dinner. So, unless it’s made crystal clear early on then the sugar daddy and the sugar babe just exist in an uncomfortable limbo. Another important point here is if your profile just lists you looking for discretion, emotional connection, no strings attached, open relationship. But makes no reference to study allowance or friends with benefits. You will again attract guys looking for hook-ups without any financial commitment. I personally feel this lack of clarity stems from the largely self-imposed stigma that asking for financial assistance is prostitution. Heaven helps us if we go a step further and use the word money at any point. Unequivocally sugar dating is not prostitution. You are choosing a partner that has the ability to financially help you of course. But it is a person of your choosing whom you are genuinely attracted to and sex is not a prerequisite.
I have told you how I myself personally took advantage of this reluctance of a sugar babe to be clear. By never addressing the expectations at the very beginning it resulted in us always feeling a little unrelaxed after a while, and so the relationship became awkward as it seemed to get harder with time to even broach the subject. After a few meetings like this, I realised I felt quite hollow after every encounter. This was not what I had got into sugar dating for, and I am sure it’s not what the sugar babes I met got into this dating for either. I wanted the mutual respect and understanding that makes this form of dating work so well. Dynamic, exciting and mutually fulfilling. And I knew I was not fulfilling my obligations as a sugar daddy.
To help you avoid being approached by guys that will not fulfil your expectations you should also avoid profile headings like these. “ I’m new to this “ or “show me how this is done “Dialogue of this sort again is a green light to the users out there. You are advertising naivety and also showing a lack of assertiveness. I understand some write this as they are a little embarrassed and want to appear that they stumbled this way. Do not ever be embarrassed. After all, this is exactly what Sugar dating is. A mutually beneficial relationship. That’s it in a nutshell. So do not feel self-conscious or awkward.
So the key to your profile is in its clarity. If you are sugar dating as the vast majority of sugar babes are for financial assistance then clearly state that. Any area open to interpretation will be exploited by the salt daddies looking for exactly that gap in a person’s profile. You should not be embarrassed about stating what you want. Wanting more than you can find dating so-called organically is the premise of this type of site. Sugar dating, however, is not all about money or materialism. To work you must have a mutual connection, a genuine attraction and desire to improve each other’s lives. On a Sugar Daddy site, You get to choose a person you are attracted to and would probably date anyway. It that just happens to have the added benefit of that person being able to support you, emotionally and financially. Nature works that way, we just took the idea from the animal world. You deserve to date a person that wants to and has the means to spoil you, and this is the best way for you to be able to find that person, to do this then clarity is a must. If you give clarity you will already eliminate a large proportion of the time-wasters.
The sites available at the moment all give the option of secret pictures that you can post that are available upon request. Adult Arrangements dating site will eliminate the need for this. If you are a member of another sugar dating site then I personally would post 3 or 4 pictures of yourself and not take up the option of the hidden pictures that you can make available upon request. My reasoning? Well, again, it comes back to attracting the wrong type of guy. You will get the bottom feeders looking for a cheap thrill, it just makes you deal with more time wasters.
The only exception to the use of hidden pictures I would envisage would be if you are currently still dating somebody or are concerned of family or friends knowing you are a sugar babe and prefer a level of anonymity. If you are using the hidden picture option just to show a more erotic picture of yourself I would give it a miss. Another faux pas is to not post any picture. You will get little or no response if you post nothing. Post a picture of you from behind or any picture, it need not show your face You can maintain your privacy this way and you will still get your profile viewed. A lot of people filter their search to show only persons with pictures.Type of picture?. There’s nothing wrong with sexy. Men are basic, I know I am one, we are visually stimulated. Just don’t cross the line from sexy to slutty. A picture like dialogue can say a thousand words. Sugar dating when correctly followed is a classy form of meeting people.
Being a classy form of dating is another reason for my launching Adult Arrangements. I wanted to bring everyone in the sugar bowl back to the higher level expected and without any hint of unease when setting out to have a relationship based on adult values and mutually beneficial commitments. Values lead me to my final point. The misconception that sugar daddies want to be called daddy. From the perspective of an emotionally mature man, I found the use of the word baby quite creepy as well. I was put off if a profile said hi daddy let me be your baby. Sugar Baby and Sugar daddy is a concept. For me at least it’s not a role-playing act, but each to their own. We use the term to categories our from of dating as the term fits this. For me personally, it is just a collective terminology and beyond that, I felt pretty awkward and a complete turn off if I was called Daddy. Ok, I hope this has been of some help. Both myself and Sarah are here to make sugar dating as pleasurable and hassle-free as possible for you. So if you have any questions we will be most happy to answer them for you. All emails we receive are traded as strictly confidential and to be only viewed by the sender and the recipients.