I was introduced to sugar dating by a girlfriend of mine.
I had been telling her of how I was unhappy with the guys I had been dating coupled with working two jobs to pay my tuition and rent. When she explained Sugar Dating to me it all seemed too perfect. I thought what’s to lose. I had fun filling out my profile and I posted a picture that did not show my face as at this stage although I was excited, I was a little sceptical of how I might be viewed by anyone that knew me. I must admit I felt a little embarrassed.
What I loved though was straight away, I was in complete control. I dictated who I replied to or who I messaged. I was able to look for someone that I was not only attracted to but could help with my financial situation. It was a great surprise if I’m honest the huge response I got as soon as I posted my profile.
I could see that the babes were the ones that had the upper hand here. I was the prize all of these guys wanted and I could be very choosey. So I was.
I couldn’t reply to everyone and I quickly deleted the approaches of quite a lot of creepy guys who were overly sexual in their messaging. After a week or so of responding to the likes that came in that took my interest, I found it easy to discern between a guy worth my time and a guy that wasn’t. I developed a system of straight out asking what allowance they were offering and for what that allowance was to be for?. This cut the players out of the game straight away. Sure a few non-genuine guys tried to play past this, but they could only take it a conversation or two past the point of my asking what they were offering. That’s why.
If I can offer any advice it has some pre-prepared questions to ask and be frank and to the point. If I wasn’t, I found some guys would try to take advantage of this lack of being specific in what I wanted.
My first date was fantastic I was taken to a beautiful restaurant and treated in a manner I had never been before with the guys my age that had taken me out. This was not your local Thai and what do you know? I wasn’t asked to split the bill. Although the guy was attractive and we had a nice evening I didn’t feel the chemistry was there. Unlike waiting weeks for someone else to cross my path, I simply went to my inbox saw who had favourited me and picked out another guy that ticked all my requirements. I guess reading this it sounds a little cold and mercenary but I realised it was no different to dating so-called normally. The only difference was I knew a little of the person beforehand and I also knew they were financially secure and wanted to use that position to be able to help me.
The second sugar daddy I met I saw for close to a year.
I was able to give up working two jobs and focus on my studies, we took weekends away, dinned out most weeks and he was also able to give me advice on life itself. I didn’t want to use the word mentorship as I find it is used far too generically on these sites. We had a great connection and a genuine fondness and chemistry I looked forward to our dates as I know he did. His situation changed after around 11 months as his work dictated. I was sad to say goodbye although we still stay in contact. From staying in touch, I know he now has another sugar babe in his new country of work. Am I jealous not at all?
Sugar dating isn’t about control, jealousy if you find that in a relationship get out.
I am in another long-term relationship with a sugar daddy the connection again is great. We respect the fact each of us has a life outside of dating, That respect means we contact each other once a week to arrange our date. There is none of the full-time commitment issues and constant messaging that I found hard to deal with in my relationships outside of sugar dating. I can fully focus concentrate on my studies now and if I choose to I could still have another sugar daddy or boyfriend. This is my life as long as everybody involved in it is fully aware of my position then I see no harm in it what so ever. I date this way so I have the ability to live my life on my terms.
When I started as a sugar babe it was for financial help.
I felt I was drowning in debt and the worry was making me sick. I joined a sugar daddy site I am not ashamed to admit to help ease my finances. I took the offer of writing this article because I wanted to let others know that this is an amazing way of dating. It can be as loose or as meaningful as you both want. It’s not blind dating you pick a person that you are fully attracted to and know they are capable of treating you like a lady. The relationships are based on having fun when you meet, and both being left to carry on your life’s outside of those times. I was just looking for something casual and fun.
You get to decide where you want to take it. I found that to be exciting. I wanted an attractive man that could show me a better way of life than the one I was living. My sugar daddy wanted an attractive, intelligent woman that he could socialise with and help her live that lifestyle. And with sugar dating, we both knew this before we met. All we had to do was meet and make sure the chemistry was there. No other form of dating can do that. I found Adult Arrangements was by far the best Sugar Dating site out there, as it allows you to clearly state what you want. I hope you enjoy being a sugar Babe as much as I do and find this article helpful.
Lots of love Ellen x