Sugar dating is on the rise around the world.
As the stigma around this type of relationship declines, more and more people are giving it a try – whether it’s for companionship, sex, money or anything else.
If you’re reading this article, chances are that you’ve given sugar dating some thought. You’re probably trying to suss out whether or not it is right for you. Maybe you’re on the fence, and need some convincing.
For men, it’s a great way to find companionship – and unlock a source of dating free of complications.
For women, it’s a great way to do the same, but also generate a secondary source of revenue. Research in the U.S. has shown the average sugar baby makes $2,800 per month from sugar daddies.
Below, we’ll outline in detail why both men and women get into the game – and whether you should.
First, what is sugar dating?
Sugar dating (sometimes called ‘sugaring’) refers to a relationship between two people, whereby one party typically provides financial assistance to the other. The relationship typically involves sex, but it doesn’t have to.
Most commonly, sugar dating involves an older, typically wealthy, man ( a sugar daddy), dating a considerably younger woman (a sugar baby) in need of an extra stream of income.
But the reverse is equally true. There are plenty of sugar dating arrangements where a younger man enters into a relationship with an older woman (referred to as a ‘cougar’ or ‘sugar momma’).
Should I be a sugar baby?
The short answer is if you’re looking for an easy way to earn income, while enjoying your time with an older man who can facilitate your personal development, then you should consider becoming a sugar baby.
For many women, sugar dating offers the freedom to date in an uncomplicated manner. Many girls love to be taken out to dinner and enjoy the company of men, especially older guys.
When dating the right sugar daddy, there should be no pressure to commit to anything you don’t want to do.
There are many reasons people become sugar babies, such as:
- You need a secondary income stream, which can range up to $3,000 per week. Maybe you’re studying, are a single mum, saving or have a job that doesn’t pay very well, so you could really use the extra money.
- You are looking for a relationship with no commitments or expectations. This is something which differs considerably from conventional relationships.
- You want to be spoilt, taken out for beautiful meals, be given gifts, and even travel the world, by a mature, older man who cares about you.
- You want a new experience that most girls don’t get – the opportunity to learn, make new connections and see places you don’t usually get to go.
- You’re simply curious about the arrangement – and would like to try it out.
All these reasons are completely valid, and you should never feel ashamed or embarrassed about your reasoning to becoming a sugar baby.
One of the sugar babies we know explained how her routine with a sugar daddy works:
I get dressed, I go to dinner and I spend every other week end with the guy I currently met through sugar dating. I don’t call him my sugar daddy. He does call me babe, but not baby. We both find that a little creepy. While together, if the weathers’ nice, we go out on his boat or lounge around the pool. And after the weekend I go back home and get on with my own personal life
This sugar baby told us that, as a single mother, her focus is not on developing a committed relationship:
During the week, my attention is fully focused on my child and my work. But here’s the reason I love sugar dating so much. The person I am currently seeing does not bombard me with messages or expect a goodnight text every evening. My priority in life is my child and myself. Sugar dating allows me guilt free to act in this way. When I’m with my date I have all the fun of a relationship but without the draining need to reassure the person I am dating. No messages such as “where have you been?” or any additional pressures. It really works for me. I love it.
It’s not just about having a mature relationship with a really hot guy (if that’s what you want). The good sugar daddies, for the better word, “have their sh*t together” and are typically very mature.
However, in a sugar dating arrangement, you should always be aware that falling for your sugar daddy is possible. Just because the relationship is transactional, it doesn’t eliminate the fact that sugar babies and daddies still can care for one another.
If you want to get more serious, and even get married, you can. Likewise, if you want no strings attached, and only see each other once a month, you can do that too.
Should I be a sugar daddy?
It’s a question that hundreds of men have found themselves asking. And it ultimately comes to down to what you are looking for.
The short answer is if you’re looking for the companionship of a younger woman, with no expectations, the freedom to date casually, and you are happy to spend money while not expecting anything in return, a sugar daddy relationship may be for you.
There are many reasons people become sugar daddies, such as:
- You are missing companionship or romance in your life, and you are looking to find that ‘spark’ again to have with somebody.
- You are looking for casual sex, with no attached commitments. We have more to say on this below.
- You are looking for somebody to spoil, and share your money with a younger lady who is need of financial assistance to achieve her goals.
A benefit of a sugar dating is that sugar daddies don’t have to be concerned about a woman claiming half of his assets after a few months (as well as all the associated pitfalls and dramas that comes in a conventional relationship).
One thing must be clear though. Sugar dating is not sex work. Sugar babies are not prostitutes. You cannot make them have sex with you. And you cannot make them feel bad for not wanting to have sex with you.
As a sugar daddy, you do not ‘own’ your sugar babies. Your sugar babies do not owe you anything. They are not your toy.
And you cannot make them do anything that they don’t want to do.
That is why, at the outset, two- way expectations about communication is absolutely essential. If you are expecting sex, then you need to tell that to your sugar babies at the beginning. This will avoid headaches later down the track.
Give sugar dating a try – on a safe, non-judgmental platform
Most sugar dating platforms on the internet are hypocritical in nature. They say they support sugar dating, but will ban members if they ever mention money or specific types of dating arrangements over their platform.
Adult Arrangements is the only sugar dating platform online that gives sugar dating the complete freedom to be what it is supposed to be.
Both babies and daddies are able to communicate their expectations to one another at the outset – whether it’s an expectation about money, sex and ultimately what they want to get out of the arrangement. There is no judgment, no monitoring and no threat of a ban if money is discussed over the platform.