If you’re launching offthinking about becoming a sugar babe career, then you’ll need to know a couple of things first. Like in every business (and, indeed, relationship), your level of success depends on your strategy.
This article will teach you 13 fundamental tips you’ll need to know to become a wildly successful sugar babe that has fun, stays safe and makes great money along the way.
1. Understand ‘why’ you want to sugar date
To get the most from sugar dating, you have to be totally honest with yourself: why do you want to date this way?
If you don’t have a clear perspective about yourself first, you’ll have a lot of trouble portraying what it is you want from a sugar daddy.
This will lead to you wasting hours of time connecting with people that cannot fulfil your expectations.
There are thousands of reasons to be a sugar babe – and you have to absolutely be sure why you’re doing it. It could be:
- Money: help with rent, tuition, fees and bills. (Don’t feel bad if this is the reason – it’s one of the most common)
- Experience: Sugar dating is exciting. Eating in nice restaurants and dating a person that can offer more out of life than people you have previously dated.
- Companionship: you want a new friend, a confidant or just someone to have a little fun with.
Just be sure for whatever reason it is you become a sugar babe that you are genuinely honest with yourself. No ethical denials.
If you are not, you will suffer an unnecessary inner conflict. And that could lead to your not being assertive enough with letting a sugar daddy know what you want from a relationship.
2. Never feel bad about sugar dating
Sugar dating, unfortunately, has an unwarranted stigma attached to it. Everywhere you look, somebody is demonising it.
At some point in their life, everyone has had a bad experience dating. But you are actually less likely to have a negative experience sugar dating than by meeting a person in a more traditional manner.
And that’s because, with sugar dating you first get to see if a person has what you are looking for.
Sugar dating doesn’t always mean sex. It doesn’t mean escorting. It’s literally just the formation of a mutually beneficial relationship.
Just because there is a payment, or a gratuity of some kind, it doesn’t mean its escorting. That’s just silly. Otherwise, something as simple as buying a person dinner on a first date would be considered ‘escorting’.
The point is – never feel bad or less of a person because you are a sugar babe. If anything, you should feel proud and empowered that you are a sugar babe you’ve chosen to date this way. The movie we made on our home page (which you can view here) was intended to encapsulate just this.
3. Create the correct profile (and avoid ‘salt daddies’)
In the beginning, your profile is your only connection to the person you are trying to meet.
You’ll need to put forward the best impression straight away.
Your profile should attract attention, but the right attention.
There is a line between sensual, sexually attractive and cheap. Try not to cross this line if you want to attract the best Sugar Daddy.
Unfortunately, your profile is also how the time wasters will find you. If you write on your profile things such as “new to this “or “be kind, just seeing how this works.” It will be a green light to what are known as salt daddies (daddies who are there to waste your time and, at worst, exploit you). Your aim while sugar dating is to avoid these people at all costs.
Create the best profile – and win the right sugar daddies. Learn more on our article on the questions to ask before sugar dating.
4. Be direct upfront, every time
Always, always, state what you are looking for at the very beginning. Leave no room for any misinterpretation.
If you became a sugar babe for some financial assistance, as most do, then say so.
Everyone who is a member of a sugar dating site understands what they are all here for.
Yet somehow most people find it difficult to discuss the basics of an arrangement. The result is only disappointment or – at worst – exploitation. That’s why at Adult Arrangements, we took the awkwardness out of it all by allowing you to specify an allowance on your profile.
This is adult dating – and, as an adult, it is expected that you know and say what you are looking for.
You also need to be especially direct when verifying a person’s identity.
Scammers and catfish are everywhere on the internet, and they especially like trying to infiltrate dating platforms as people tend to lower their guard more when forming relationships.
So do not be embarrassed or hesitant in asking for any information you require so you can be certain of the identity of the person you are communicating with.
5. Never do anything you are not comfortable with
The golden rule when sugar dating is never do anything that you are not completely comfortable with.
This is a platform for people to be able to fill the current gaps in their lives, be that company or financial support. And to have fun in doing so.
You don’t have to have sex if you don’t want to. You don’t have to do anything that you are at all uncomfortable with.
We can’t stress this enough – don’t do anything you don’t want to do.
Sugar dating is not a one-way street for the sugar daddies. Mutually beneficial relationships mean just that.
As an adult form of dating, if two people are in agreement on what they want, then it is for them to decide on if and how they proceed based on their agreed values.
6. Ask questions (lots of questions)
At the end of the day, you cannot have a meaningful connection if you do not know enough about the person you are intending to date.
Unfortunately, we read a lot of content that warns sugar daters not to ask sugar daddy questions about their personal life. Don’t listen to those warnings.
You should also obtain answers to some fundamental questions if you are going to date somebody. We all have our own moral compass and code that we live by – so ask questions. Ask what they like, what they don’t like, what their background is, and what they want to get out of the relationship.
For example, if a sugar daddy is married with a family, then you might not wish to go any further in getting to know them.
7. Figure out your arrangement
Once you connect with a person and decide to move forward in seeing one another, discuss early on how you would like the relationship to proceed. Don’t just ‘wing it’.
Remember, no matter how brief you might end up knowing each other sugar dating is built around this being a relationship, it’s one of its ethical fundamentals.
Make sure you are both on the same page and understanding what each other wants. This prevents any unnecessary awkward situations or disappointments from occurring.
Early on, establish when you are to see each other, and for how long that is to be for. You might be thinking of just catching up for an hour. They might have thought the evening or the weekend.
If you choose to sugar date using the Adult Arrangements platform, you can specify all of this information from your profile.
On all other sugar dating sites, you will have to make sure you discuss these points in person.
Just make sure that you do.
For more information, make sure to read our article on 10 sugar dating FAQs.
8. Be clear about payment – upfront
Discussions around allowances and payments are generally the point at which if it’s going to go wrong, it will.
People understandably feel a little uncomfortable when discussing an allowance, especially if it is to be in cash.
Everyone one that joins a sugar dating site understands what is expected.
The vast majority of agreements are based on a financial commitment from the Sugar Daddy. That is, after all, the very definition of what a sugar daddy is.
We can’t stress this enough.
You need to state, clearly, exactly what you want.
Once an arrangement has been agreed upon, stick to it. Don’t try to renegotiate. Talk of finances ruins the mystique of sugar dating.
Know in advance what you are looking for and be clear about it from the beginning.
9. Work out how you are paid
Unfortunately, in today’s world, there are a lot of scammers. And these people are usually pretty good at getting under our radar. You need to keep your guard up at the start of dating someone new – especially when it comes to the way you are paid.
So what’s the best way to start to receive payment for your dates? There are various ways:
- Cash – The obvious and sensible way. The main reason? Once its in your hand, its yours.
- Bank deposit – Scammers can say they have deposited in your account only to stop the transaction. If it is to be a bank deposit and the person is a new acquaintance, then ensure the funds have cleared first before your date commences.
- Peer to peer payment options – Think of things like PayPal, Google Wallet, Square Cash … they’re super easy and secure, but there’ll also be an electronic record – so just keep that in mind.
You may agree with your sugar daddy that your allowance to be paid weekly or monthly into your bank account. So, the allowances would be treated as a gift, it is meaning they are tax exempt. (Although, always seek professional advice from your accountant).
A lot of the time, sugar babes will work under a Pay Per Meet (PPM) Arrangement. This is usually a great way to get paid, and works well for the varied forms of sugar dating. You don’t feel any constraints or issues with committal in the form of being available for anyone.
10. Watch your emotions extremely carefully
This can be a tricky one. Before you embark on sugar dating, understand it is different from traditional dating.
The word NSA is often used on profiles (non-serious arrangement). This is not to say people are not open to letting a relationship develop into something more serious.
But we are addressing the fundamentals of sugar dating here – it succeeds because there are no pressures or commitments that come with traditional dating.
So be very careful of your feelings and emotions. We are only human, and a bond is bound to be forged during the course of a long-term arrangement.
Just be sure you are both on the same level when it comes to your feelings. Jealousy can arise, feelings of betrayal and all the other deadly sins associated with standard relationships can become real, very quickly.
Also, be very careful of allowing your feelings to trick you into a fantasy that might not be real. It can become painful and ruin or end the relationship.
11. Date multiple sugar daddies
You can easily start to get dependent on the money you receive from sugar dating.
For this reason, you should always keep your options open – and go on dates with multiple sugar daddies.
Even if both yourself and your sugar daddy have agreed to be monogamist, it does no harm to keep a few “irons in the fire”, so to speak.
You do not have to be unethical, but just talking to other sugar daddies is a harmless pursuit.
Should the sugar daddy you are with (for whatever reason) need to finish your relationship, that means you will not go into a state of financial difficulty.
12. Be bold and seek opportunities (wherever they may be)
A genuine sugar daddy should be a person that has the intellect and contacts that might help you grow your career.
Most high achievers relish any opportunity to divulge their knowledge. If your sugar daddy is one of those high achievers, there could be career opportunities through either your sugar daddy or his associates.
People tend to mix with like-minded people. If you are entrepreneurial, this could be of great benefit to you and enable you to leap frog the mistakes that can be made when first starting out on your entrepreneurial path.
How much more fun – being shown around in style and supported on your holidays than having to work menial jobs?
Just another way you can utilise opportunities through sugar dating.
13. Have fun! (Probably the most important thing)
Finally, just relax and have fun.
Get all of the above out of the way at the beginning, and then just bloody enjoy yourself.
It’s exciting to be both a sugar babe or a sugar daddy.
The thrill of starting a new connection with someone. Getting dressed up and going to a lovely restaurant or the theatre. Being treated to the finer things that life can offer.
Go into this with a sense of realism. There are more fogs than princes. Just take it all with a pinch of salt and move on quickly from any negative connections. They will happen.
The secret is to not take anything toxic personally.
And do it all – with your head held high!
You should be proud that you are going for what you want in life. So many sugar babes harbour some embarrassment. Don’t!
You will be amazed at what you attract once you start to believe in yourself and realise what you deserve. Just be intelligent in your choices primarily in any decisions to do with your personal safety.
You have taken steps to live life on your terms. Not your sugar daddy’s life. Not anyone else’s life. Your terms.
Get that clear in your head – and the world is at your feet.
14. Bonus tip: Find your sugar daddy on a safe and reliable platform
It helps to find your sugar daddy on a simple, safe, fun and completely free platform.
Our platform here at Adult Arrangements was designed to help current and aspiring sugar babes to find their ideal sugar daddy to fit their personality and help them achieve what they want out of life.
Simply register, complete your profile, describe your availability the type of arrangement you’re looking for – and away you go!